One of the benefits of being a Proverbs 31 Woman is that there is a man who is praying to God for you. Imagine being the answer to your future husband’s dreams. Imagine not having to do anything to find him because he is looking for you. The 22 verses of Proverbs 31:10-31 informs the Christian man of the kind of wife he should seek and ask for in prayer. This chapter teaches men to seek God’s wisdom so that he will be worthy of you, a woman of character and virtue.
Choosing a wife is an important decision for a man because even a man who is successful can be ruined by the wrong choice. The verses that describe the Proverbs 31 Woman are actually an acrostic poem, with each verse beginning with a succeeding letter of the Hebrew alphabet. How lovely, right?! They poetically outline how she helps her husband and describe the influence she will have on his life. The verses about the Proverbs 31 Woman demonstrate the importance of a wife.
What Makes Her So Valuable
The Proverbs 31 Woman is the excellent wife described in Proverbs 12:4. She is virtuous, worthy of honor, and a crown to her husband. However, you do not have to be married to be virtuous; single women should be virtuous also!
The Proverbs 31 Woman has an amazing profile and aspiring to attain it is a worthy goal for both married and single women. However, the most important of her characteristics is her wisdom, which is rooted in her fear of the Lord (Proverbs 31:10, 30). Wisdom itself is described as being more valuable than rubies (Proverbs 3:15 and 8:11). Wisdom also poetically describes a woman in Proverbs 1:20-33 and 7:4-5. The Proverbs 31 Woman places all of her faith in God. That makes her wise, and that is what makes her valuable.
“For wisdom is better than rubies; And all desirable things cannot compare with her.”
– Proverbs 8:11 AMP
How to Become a Proverbs 31 Woman
A virtuous woman does not have to excel in every aspect of the Proverbs 31 Woman’s profile! Rather, she should reflect the value of the woman who walks in the fear and admonition of the Lord, in Godly wisdom. Her spiritual life, the fear of the Lord, makes her worth far above rubies or pearls.
It is that fear of the Lord that leads her to live a life that is pleasing to Him (Proverbs 31:10 & 30). The fear of the Lord inspires her to be a faithful steward of the time and talents that God has given her. It gives her wisdom to be productive and beneficial to others. A virtuous woman adorns herself with good deeds by helping others (1 Timothy 2:10) and does not allow herself to be led into sin (1 Peter 3:6). The fear of the Lord inspires her to be industrious in her endeavors. She is virtuous not because of what she does but because of why.
4 Ways of Having the Wisdom of a Proverbs 31 Woman
The foundation for having the Godly wisdom of a virtuous woman includes:
Knowing that women are equal to men but different. We were created in the same image and have the same purpose of glorifying God. However, we have a different design and role. We are not supposed to compete with men because their role is not more important than ours. We are of equal importance to God’s plan for creation.
Trusting God enough to ask Him to search your heart to make sure that your intentions are pure (Psalm 139:23). It can be hard to know our own hearts because our hearts can deceive us (Jeremiah 17:9). We need to ask God to reveal to us any motivations that are self-seeking. Pray for God to create a clean heart in us (Psalm 51:10), and ask for a heart of gratitude (Psalm 142:5-7).
Living for God’s glory. Seeking to live for yourself is self-centered. Having personal happiness as your purpose and yourself as your authority is destructive. God wants us to live as He would have us to, not for our own glory. Instead, we should help Him by serving others. Disciple younger women, teaching them what God says about womanhood (Titus 2:3-5; 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8), and seek out older women to learn from. Make God’s Word your authority. (Luke 1:38).
Receiving God’s help in dying to self. It is really hard to lay down what we want for what God wants. That is, until we learn firsthand that what God wants for us is always so much better than what we in our limited vision want for ourselves. With the help of the fruits of the Holy Spirit, shine your light. Be merciful, gracious, slow to anger, loving, faithful, and forgiving (2 Corinthians 3:18). The Proverbs 31 Woman used her words to instruct others skillfully and with kindness. This requires patience and self-control, which is not always easy. Thankfully, we can do all things with God’s help.
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The Proverbs 31 Woman is rewarded for her hard work with public praise. She has a good reputation and is well known by her deeds, so her faithfulness in being a true daughter of God is all worth it.
What are your thoughts about what makes the Proverbs 31 Woman so worthy? Let me know below.
Until next time, Happy Easter!
Nice post Robyn, the Proverbs 31 woman really does exist, I have heard women doubt that but you don’t have to struggle to be her, just let God lead you to be who He wants you to be.
Thank you, Rebecca! I agree that it is attainable with God. 🙂🙏🏽