There are so few books written for single women regarding marriage that I was surprised when I came across 31 Days of Prayer for Your Future Husband: Becoming a Wife Before the Wedding Day. It was written in 2017 by wife and mother Tiffany Langford, the founder of the women’s ministry, Waiting for Your Boaz. This book was written to encourage women to trust God to write our love stories.
The book is broken down into two parts. The first part, A Call to Divine Love, is a quick read and is about being purposeful in your season of waiting. It is divided into three brief chapters. In the second part, 31 Days of Prayer for Your Future Husband, she shares the very prayers that she spoke over her then future husband. Each day of the prayer section has a focus. For example, the first day’s focus is spiritual growth. It starts with a scripture that is Paul’s prayer for our spiritual growth and is followed by a prayer request for you to make for your future husband’s spiritual growth. Each day’s prayer also has a journal section to write more on the prayer in your own words.
This book does the job of encouraging a purposeful wait as you work through the 31 days of prayer for your future spouse. It brings to your attention all of the areas of his life that God needs to prepare before marriage and helps you to work on those aspects of your relationship with God as well. The daily prayer journal helps you to reflect on the focus of the day, especially if you use the space to write out your thoughts about it.
How to Trust God
My experience reading this book has helped me to grow in my understanding of how to make the best use of the single season. Here are my five takeaways:
A Desire for Marriage Comes from God
If you have a desire for marriage, trust that it comes from God (Psalm 37:4). God wants to bless us with a full and abundant life as Jesus explains that He came to give in John 10:10. For some, that can be accomplished without marriage; they are fulfilled by the single life. Others desire someone to love and serve God with. Your desire for marriage is an indication of His will for your life.
God gives us the desire for marriage for a purpose: to exemplify the relationship of Christ Jesus with His bride, the Church.
“Husbands, love your wives [seek the highest good for her and surround her with a caring, unselfish love], just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify the church, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word [of God], so that [in turn] He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy [set apart for God] and blameless.”
– Ephesians 5:25-27 AMP
God’s purpose for marriage also includes companionship (Genesis 2:18), to protect us from sinning (1 Corinthians 7:9), for procreation (Genesis 1:28), and for provision and support (Genesis 2:15, 18).
Allowing God to Write Your Love Story is a Choice
He will not do so automatically. Choose to let God write your love story. Cast all your concerns about who your future spouse may be on God and leave them there. That is what He wants you to do, then trust that He is able to do a better job writing your love story than you!
God cares about you and wants what’s best for you. He knows you better than even you know yourself, including how many hairs are on your head (Luke 12:7)! Our hearts can deceive us, but thankfully, not Him who created us (Jeremiah 17:9; Matthew 5:8).
Singleness is a Season of Preparation
The season of singleness should be seen as a blessing. Probably many do not see it that way, but remember that while you are waiting, God is preparing you and your future husband. God promises to work all things to good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28). During this time, God will heal you and shape you into the wife your future husband deserves, not one who is broken from involvement with the wrong men before meeting him, from when you were trying to write your own love story (or letting someone else do it!).
See Related: Becoming a Daughter of God
More importantly, God is worthy of being your first love, so spend time getting to know Him during this time. God is a jealous God; He will take away anything you put ahead of Him. Your season of singleness is a time to commit to doing things God’s way and to stay in trust and faith that God is indeed writing your love story.
See Related: Developing Inner Beauty
Serve the Lord While You Wait
Ruth is our perfect example for this. After her husband’s death, she forsook an opportunity to stay in her land for a better opportunity of finding a new husband. Instead, she decided to follow Naomi and get to know the one true God. During that season, she loved and served God by taking care of her elderly mother-in-law. And when the time was right, God rewarded her with Boaz and a place in the family line of Jesus (Ruth 4:16-17).
Enjoy your time and life with Jesus before your future husband arrives and then together after he does.
In the meantime, focus on pleasing the Lord, while staying in confident trust in God to take care of you and that your future is bright. Know that you are waiting on God’s promise not for just some fairytale to come true.
“Delight yourself in the Lord, And He will give you the desires and petitions of your heart.”
– Psalms 37:4 AMP
Pray for the Person You are Going to Marry
Instead of just petitioning God for a husband in your prayers, pray for God to bless and prepare the person you are going to marry. The power of your prayers could make the difference between your future husband being saved or not. Though this book provides 31 days of prayers, you should pray for your future husband every single day. Believe that your prayers are heard by God and that He is working on your behalf, preparing both you and your future husband (Matthew 21:22).
Praying for your future spouse speaks life into your future marriage (proverbs 18:21). Additionally, praying for your future husband to become the man of God and husband he is called to be, develops you into a woman of God and gives you practice being the wife you are meant to be.
My favorite part of this book: The author kept a journal to God on herself and on her future husband during her single season. She then presented the one on her husband to him on their wedding night. How lovely is that?! 😍
I highly recommend 31 Days of Prayer for Your Future Husband. For more from Tiffany Langford, check out Waiting for Your Boaz.
Do you have an experience with allowing God to write your love story? Please share in the comments below.
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